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Money Talks…So Should Couples

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Updated February 10, 2021

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New lovebirds often spend hours talking. They share stories from childhood, funny anecdotes from high school and college, and their future hopes and dreams. But, unless a couple has talked about money, they don’t completely know each other. 

Many couples avoid talking about money. Yet, people can have very strong feelings on the subject and very different philosophies on spending and saving. Feelings can be deeply ingrained — and not easy to change. As with other traits, opposites often attract. So, it’s not uncommon for the partners in a couple to have conflicting attitudes towards money. Not surprisingly, money issues are often a major cause of divorce. 

Communicate and Compromise 

You may not be able to change your partner’s ideas about money. But, if you talk about your differences openly, you should be able to come up with some compromises. Here are a few tips to get the conversation going. 

Ask “How Much?” Before Saying “I Do” 

Once you’re engaged, you’ll probably be busy picking out wedding invitations, china patterns, and floral arrangements as you plan the wedding. You may not want to spoil the romance by comparing credit reports. But how romantic will it be to return from the honeymoon to discover that your new spouse is knee-deep in debt? 

Engaged couples should have a serious talk about money long before the ceremony. Talk about what money means to each of you. Go over what you each earn — and owe. If either of you has a serious amount of debt, discuss how you plan to handle it. 

Get Down to the Nitty-gritty 

Couples also should discuss their joint financial goals. Do you both want to eventually buy a house, save for your kids’ college, and/or retire early? Prioritize your goals and estimate how much you’ll need to reach them. If one of you is a spender and the other is a saver, talk about the compromises you are willing to make so you’ll both be happy. 

There are day-to-day financial issues, too. As you prepare to join financial forces, figure out who will be responsible for paying the bills. Will you have joint or separate banking accounts? If you keep separate accounts, how will you pay joint bills? 

No matter how you work things out, you’ll need a budget for your new joint venture. Decide ahead of time who will be responsible for tracking spending. While one of you may be better at doing the paperwork, you both should know where your money is being spent. In a pinch, either partner should be able to step in and cover for the other. 

Keep Talking 

Once you’re married and have a budget, savings plan, and bill-paying system in place, you still need to talk about money. Sit down (at least once a month in the beginning) to look at how well you’re sticking to your budget, and see if your savings are on track to meet your goals. That way, if something unexpected comes up, you’ll both be familiar with your general financial situation. 

Keeping the lines of communication open will help you recognize minor issues and address them before they become major problems in your relationship. 

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